Guitar Notes: How Can I Perfect My Confidence With Girls?



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Hey, I’m 18 and a senior in High School. My whole life, I haven’t really been so confident when it came to girls, and it makes me sick. I’m a pretty shy guy, but I tend to think that might make a girl fall for me, but for some reason it never turns out that way. Every girl I’ve had a crush on has never liked me back, and girls who ask me out end up throwing themselves at me, which makes me so sick, even when guys try to set me up with random girls or girls I don’t see them as my girlfriend because of their attitude and personality; note that the girls who have thrown themselves at me are black. It’s not that I have no confidence at all, I can only use it to a certain extent. I can’t usually go as far as saying sexually suggestive comments or even tell a girl how beautiful I think she is. I feel like saying things like that but it never comes out. The girl I most recently crushed on for most of this year is a sophomore and even though I made more of an effort with her, in that I could talk to her with no fear, and actually ask her if she wants to hang out, but she would be busy because she’s an AP student, I still couldn’t do anything to get with her. I’ve only played guitar for her once this year, and I really wanted to get to know her better, but after telling her how I feel last week, she said she was interested in someone who goes to a different school. I wish I was the type of guy who was a real sweetheart, but could still be smooth and cool and tougher. Sometimes I think girls find me ugly. And finally, I know this is a bit off topic, but I’ve only had one girlfriend in my life, so if I told a girl that she was only my second girlfriend, would it make her feel special, shocked, or surprised? Leave thoughts, and opinions below. PS: I think girls don’t like me because I’m too nice, or just doubtful of myself. But what do you guys think?

Comments

  1. Kaitlyn says:

    Just tell yourself you are good enough! (:

  2. Lemon says:

    Personally, I think that a nice guy is one that will get a girlfriend over a jerk. But anyway, don’t feel like you’re ugly or you can never get a girlfriend. If you want to be confident with us girls, try feeling like “ok, I bet that if I time it right, I can say SOMETHING to her.” The thing is, try. Sometimes, (rather, most of the time) girls want the GUY to make the first move. So… Get out there! Try your hardest, and learn to accept rejection. It’ll take a lot of confidence and mental preparation, but I bet you can do it. Just tell yourself that you can, and everything will go uphill from there. (Well, maybe not EVERYTHING, but you get the point.)
    Oh, and by the way.. You don’t have to use suggestive comments to impress a girl; some will take it as “Oh, he’s acting like a player or something like that”. So, it’s not bad that you can’t do that. Not everyone will swoon at that, they’ll tell their friends how weird you are.
    And about you being too nice, I sort of thought of myself as too geeky for any guy I like for a while, but I’ve learned this: Geeky (to an extent) is the new cool. So for guys, nice yet cool is the it thing that girls love.
    Hope everything works out for you!!! 😀