he doesn’t do this regularly but he still lets me down on arrangements sometimes and it really pisses me off. like yesterday we were out and i said do you want to come round mine tomorrow he goes yeah but i’m not promising anything (because i’m a big believer in the promise and if you break a promise i break your foot- not literally but he knows if he breaks too many i will dump him) so this morning we were texting and he goes so do you still want me to come round today, i replied yeah but only if you want to so he agreed to come round. yet 2 hours later i was getting a bit annoyed that he hadn’t mentioned a time he was going to come round so i said to him, ok if you do actually come round today just please tell me 20 mins in advance so i can get my make up on. then i got a reply saying i think i might leave it soz, i don’t mean it to be nasty do you still love me.
i hate it when he asks this after really upsetting me because yes i do still love him i just don’t feel like saying it when i’m pissed off and upset so i just go yh.
but if i do show how upset and angry i am he gets very upset and goes well i might as well end this if all i do is annoy you, i don’t want to loose him but he needs to realise if he didn’t keep doing stuff to piss me off (and tbh i don’t think its unfair me wanting him to keep plans and stop getting my hopes up) i wouldn’t get upset with him.
we have been good mates for 2 years and finally started dating 3 months ago (we are both 17), and since then he has been the best boyfriend i could ask for, he pays me compliments he treats me like a goddess and i know he loves me dearly and i do him back but its just this that ruins things. he has done this 3 times and it has really made me upset ever time because i make the effort to get up earlier to get ready or tidy the house properly if he is coming round and i resent the fact i make the effort and he can’t be bothered to come round and see me. i understand that he has his guitar lesson at 4 and is out for dinner at 7 but he could have said yesterday i can’t do tomorrow how about later on in the week. but no
what can i do, i don’t want to loose him so dumping him is a no no, i have loved him for 2 years and i have finally got what i have wanted for a long time so i’m not going to throw it away over this but how can i teach him not to be so unreliable.
sorry its long but thanks anyway.
plus he is now saying that what he said today wasn’t making plans, but to me saying you are going to come and see me is making plans.